In the many thousands of years that humans beings have existed; one thing archeologists, science and spirituality can agree upon is we are social beings. Whether we were created by Divine intervention or evolved much like other documented mammals. From the dawn of time we have sought companionship and the ultimate or highest form of social relationships; finding our soulmate and life partner.
And while the hieroglyphics left by humans thousands of years before may not provide the details of how or even why; in this modern age of spiritual enlightenment we embrace this concept.
While there are of course those that are not driven by that yearning for their soul mate or life partner; for most of humanity this is a powerful drive throughout our lifetime. And perhaps first we must understand what exactly a soul mate IS or how do they differ from just another dating or romance experience? When we find one of our soul mates, it is easier than one might think and there are a few key points to remember. A true soul mate is an instant connection with another person that is not a sexual or physical attraction but something much more profound. My clients and many of us often will ask or consider; how do you know when you meet your soulmate? Is there a checklist or what influences, energies or factors help us to determine that this is a soul mate rather than just a fleeting attraction?
Although there are often numerous subtle signs and signals, perhaps the most validating of a true soul mate is the spiritual and emotional connection that is impossible to ignore. We often feel a strong sense of familiarity or perhaps we feel a sense of having finally “come home”. When or upon meeting a soul mate actual time spent together or interaction with a soulmate becomes irrelevant when compared to the depth of feelings both spiritual and emotional. For example that man that you noticed upon first entering the party and seem inexplicably drawn to. As this man feels a similar or even identical pull, much like the tug of a magnet we find ourselves quickly moving towards this person as though we are being led by some unseen force. We may then share our “story” of having spent the rest of the party or gathering side by side, talking as though we were old friends newly reunited. And often humans/people will reflect back upon that first meeting and try to explain how they felt a shift within their core energy or being (the spiritual self) and in some instances soul mates will even discuss a literal physical change with profound emotional stirrings that for the duration of such relationship never fade.
And it is quite common that many of us in our personal journeys or path ask how do we know when we meet our soulmate? And how do we discern between a true soulmate and life partner and just a romance? Although we are all bound to make a mistake at times; there are almost always early signs, red flags and a sense of something being not right or “off” when a person is not a true soulmate or life partner. Another human being, even a soulmate should not become our identity nor we theirs. We enhance the higher qualities in one another and help to inspire via the love and the desire for each of us to be our best. Love as in a soulmate is not controlling but trusting. They do not keep secrets, maintain emotional distances or take from our energy. In fact they ADD to our energy in a sense a bit like an upgrade. We become better through our connection not less. We don’t and should never forfeit or lose our own soul when searching for or finding our soulmate. And when we do find that special person, the joy, harmony and bliss can be phenomenal!
When the world suddenly feels different or we have that inner “whisper” that something beyond this earthbound existence has occurred, that is how and when we know we have met a soul mate.
Although our lessons, purpose and path varies just as we as individuals do, for most of us if we are adults or past a certain age or level of maturity; chances are quite high that we have at one point or another met or connected with a soul mate.
And many of us ask how do we find our soulmate without even trying? And although the literal answer is quite simple, adhering to such often proves difficult and for some of us even impossible. It is within this influence or energy our highest and perhaps strongest intention in seeking a soul mate that we fall victim to losing our soul in exchange for this connection.
We remember or remind ourselves that while free will always overrides Karma; soul mates are chosen by a Divine source or intervention and likely have been in many if not all of our past lives’.
For some of us that yearning, desire or unrequited urge to find our soulmate leads us into making choices, even mistakes that ultimately result in somewhat of a trade off. This goes against all Universal law and will not result in a healthy and functional relationship even IF we do find a soul mate. When this need turns to obsession; much like the tracker or hunter close on the heels of his prey, all other facets of life begin to become unimportant. We can usually feel the shifts within self or our own energy from calm to chaotic or balanced to frenzy. The “hunt” becomes a desperate measure or a price worth any cost to find that highest form of companionship but the “trade” is one that takes rather than gives.
We are not created nor meant to compromise our own standards, boundaries and most importunately our identity for the gift of uniting with a soul mate. Yet over and over we see those that seem increasingly lost, and ultimately paying the greatest sacrifice- their own soul in the name of love.
Love and most especially that of a true soul mate is of the highest connection, therefore that influence or energy assists or inspires each of us to achieve more or greater. When we lose our soul for the sake of love, whether intentional or unintentional, we for that time or during that span give up or “trade” that which is the very core of who we are our own spirit or soul. And love is never intended to take or ask such a great sacrifice, but should be the blending of two spiritual beings in human form, connecting at the highest level possible.
It is never a requirement nor request from Divine and/or other influences to release or lose our own soul/spirit for the sake of connecting with our soul mate.
For most of humanity and even the collective, finding and uniting with a soul mate is as vital to our happiness and spiritual wholeness or completion as food and water are to our physical needs.
We do not have to hunt or search; we can find or attract a soul mate simply by the intention of such; and in keeping our energy open to all potential. Our soul mate or the fate of meeting, is more that which we manifest than a deliberate hunt or obsessive mission. In reality we do not necessarily have to “try” or complete a series of steps to find, locate or meet a soul mate. Our recognition of a soul mate is deep, constant and comes from our highest core self, therefore attention to our own intuition or instinct is the only “rule” necessary when seeking a soul mate. And lastly love should always be multiplied and never divided. While we do take risks and make sacrifices in the name of love or for a soul mate, perhaps within that connection or relationship as it develops. But this is the blending, the harmonious joining of two spiritual energies, rather than the sacrifice of our own spirit or soul for another.
We all have at least one soul mate waiting that destined moment that we come face to face. And the best insurance or assurance in finding that part of our destiny is via our spiritual intentions, manifestations and above all else, the faith that YOUR soul mate is waiting~~~~